I made this post a few days ago. I'll post it here. Sorry for it being a little long

I've officially made the decision to file for divorce. My husband is staying with a friend and I told him today that I want a divorce and that's that. I'm filing and blocked him. He's been trying to reach me through my email. My kids know now that we are getting a divorce and my son asked was he why. I said no. There was a lot to caused this. His father's actions caused them. Not him. He started to get emotional and say it was his fault and he didn't want us to split up over it and he's fine which no he's not fine. There's a lot going on and I know when my own kids are fine. He's not. But I kept trying to explain it's not his fault but he thinks it is and is begging me not to divorce their father over him. No matter how many times I tell him his dad's ACTIONS caused the divorce. Not him. He's just not getting it and it's hurting me to see him take in the blame for this when we are already dealing with the trauma from the other stuff