I'm annoyed at my husband, I shouldn't be because he's a supportive and caring guy. I'm a big girl and I don't feel comfortable in myself (I'm working on it, both weight loss and actually liking myself) I'm tall, at least for a female, and I'm overweight.

My husband tells me I'm pretty and that he likes my eyes and when I say to him that I want to know that he finds my actual body attractive I get the response of "I'll love you however you look" or the "I love you for your personality" and though these are nice things to say, it feels like the same shit people have said to me my whole life. I hated hearing 'shes pretty for a fat girl' or 'youve got a wonderful personality' I don't want that. I want him to want me, I want him to want my body, I want him to tell me he likes bits of me, I want to know he actually finds me physically attractive and I just don't feel it. We're intimate all the time it's not that I just hate the typical, she's a fat girl responses that he's given me. I hate them so much. I don't think he realises how hurtful the personality one is. We all know that one is a cover for you're unattractive but nice to people.

I genuinely wish he would tell me if he doesn't find me attractive instead of the crappy excuses, they hurt more.