I have had this friend, I’ll call her Cadence, since I was about 3 years old. We were best friends all throughout our early teens. We drifted apart naturally during our late teens but connected and became really close again early in college. We always have been able to click after not talking and can talk about anything without it being weird. We have similar cultural backgrounds and know each others families well.

Our families were friends at some point. Her parents started drifting apart from my family back when we were teens and don’t necessarily talk to us anymore, we never understood why. We think it might be religious or disapproval of a less strict parenting style but all speculation. I still talked to her mother but since I got married she also stopped talking to me, I assume disapproval that I got married outside of the church. But that’s more speculation.

Cadence and I were very close since early college for a few years, hanging out regularly, talking regularly, calling regularly. But Cadence suddenly started being very flakey about two years ago. She stood me up consecutively three times. I tried to call her a few times and no call back. I gave her a year and reached out again, where this time she just didn’t respond. I tried two more times reaching out again, no response. I have no idea why. I have mulled over it and I cannot think of anything I did wrong. We are in different places of our life and maybe her mother influenced her as well, but that’s all I can think of.

Anyway, It’s been another year now. I am pregnant. And I always pictured Cadence in my life for always and I want her to be apart of my pregnancy journey, if that’s what she wants. I don’t know if I should reach out to her now or if I should wait more years to reach out. What do you think?