How do you break off a friendship with someone who didn't do anything wrong, they just have the perfect life and it's annoying?

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So "Jenny" and I met when our girls were newborns. They're now 18 months and 19 months old. We've been close but Jenny, I swear, has the perfect life. There's nothing wrong with Jenny, she's just annoyingly fucking perfect. Her house is always clean. She's tall, thin, and pretty. She always has energy. She does yoga. I swear she never loses her temper. Her daughter is fucking perfectly behaved while mine is tearing my hair out and smacking me in the face. She swears her daughter has hard days too but I've never seen it.
Her husband is supportive, attractive, and the best dad ever. I have to ask mine to spend time with our daughter. Jenny's perfect husband sent her to get her nails done for her birthday and for Christmas, he took the whole family somewhere tropical for a week. Mine got me a gift card to Amazon.
She has a nice house, and is so freaking happy. She makes cookies, bread, soup and all sorts of stuff when her perfect daughter naps. She offers to take my daughter for the day if she's being too much. I'm like... Just stop already. She doesn't rub it in your face that she's perfect and her life is perfect, but the fact that women like her exist is just annoying as all hell.
I've tried to ghost her but I can't. She just texts and asks if I need space and if I'm all right. The problem is that she is just too freaking nice! My fiance and I have been engaged for over three years and he's not keen on setting a date just yet. We have awful fights and have gone to therapy before. We're probably headed that way now. My daughter is a terror. Tantrums galore, into everything, running the show, not wanting to nap. Her daughter is so happy she freaking giggles all day. I've never seen her throw a tantrum. If she's tired she rubs her eyes, yawns, and goes to sleep.
Being around Jenny just makes me feel like a failure even though she's not like rubbing it in my face. I'm a stay at home mom with no life because my child is a terror who I can't take anywhere. 
What's a nice way to say that I don't want to talk to Jenny unless I text her first? I just hate when she invites me over and she has fresh cookies out. Or I'll tell her I'm having a hard time and she'll be like "Oh my daughter is down for a nap so drop your crazy child off over here!"

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You need serious therapy. Jenny and her “perfect” life aren’t the problem. You are.

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Tell her you need space I guess.
You sound like you need therapy.. not trying to be mean. & the grass isn’t always greener… it just seems that way because you are here comparing your life to hers. You only see a small portion of her life, while you are living yours every second of everyday. I can promise you, every single human being has struggles & hardships. Every single human being feels depressed at times and sad & hopeless - no matter how happy they may seem on the outside. 
She wouldn’t seem so perfect if you stopped comparing your life to hers & realized nobody has a perfect life. Life is difficult for everyone. & your kids are so young, it’s normal for toddlers to be difficult & it just sounds like hers hasn’t hit the “terrible twos” yet.. but I promise it comes for everyone - just not always at the same time. My first kid was so bad from 3-4. He was such an easy baby up until he hit 3 lol. 
Stop comparing your life to hers & understand you are projecting your frustrations on to her life. If you want a better life for yourself, make it happen. But don’t be mad at someone for being happy in theirs. & if that’s not possible for you, then please just be honest with her & tell her you need a break from your friendship. You have too much going on & too much stress to maintain a friendship with her at this point in time.

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Whoa girl… this is a lot. Jenny is just being nice, probably doesnt have her shit together nearly as much as you think she does but just likes to cook for her family, and you could probably (definitely) benefit from therapy. 
Just tell her you need a little space because youre working some things out. Jenny seems super nice so im sure shed be understanding.

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If I were you, I would get yourself into individual therapy ASAP before you lose a person who is actually a good friend to you. I'm not sure you understand how rare that is. She is even offering her support to you by offering to take your child so you can have a break. Again, not sure you understand how rare it is to have someone like that in your life. Maybe you can learn something from her instead of being a hater. She's not annoying, you're just annoyed because you're miserable and comparing yourself to her. ￼

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Wow you’re a hater, just tell her you don’t want to be friends anymore and that she deserves a better friend

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Comparison is the thief of joy. Just cuz things look perfect don’t mean they are behind closed doors. You’re only going to sabotage and turn more bitter if you continue to hyper fixate on Jenny and her lifestyle. Be grateful for what you have.

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Jenny isn't perfect and her life isn't either. She goes through things like everyone does she just carries it well. Don't compare your life to hers, really good friends are rare. It is okay to have space when you're down. It sounds like she will be there to support you in whatever way you need even if it means you need space.

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I agree with Pluto. You only see a small portion of her life and you’re comparing the parts you do see to your life. Nobody has a perfect life, it’s literally impossible. But I will say, maybe a start to having a less stressed life would be to get rid of your fiancé. You’re not going to find a good man like Jenny’s husband by staying with a guy like your fiancé. It doesn’t seem like you guys get along or are compatible anyway, and especially since you guys already tried therapy. If Jenny chose a good man, you can’t be mad at her for that. Instead of hating on her, maybe drop your pride and look at her as an inspiration or something. I have a good friend who is very very successful and I always ask her questions or go to her for advice. If anything, those are the people you want to surround yourself with. You never want to be the smartest or best person in your group. You want people who will help you grow and go through life with. But if you MUST drop her as a friend, just tell her that you need space right now to focus on things.

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So you’re jealous and hate that she’s a genuine friend who’s trying  to offer support and help. But instead of taking her up on her offers you come in here and try to say how awful she is ,Makes sense . I’m sure there’s plenty you don’t see behind the scenes  . I think she’s the one who shouldn’t want to text you unless she texts first . This is an awful post honestly, and sad . Maybe therapy would be beneficial for you.

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You are a very miserable person. I can’t imagine being in a relationship with you. Get some therapy. Jenny isn’t the issue. You are.

How do you break off a friendship with someone who didn't do anything wrong, they just have the perfect life and it's annoying?

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