HELP: Wedding planned for 2025 & just found out we are pregnant🥹

As happy as we are to add this blessing to our family I am truly freaking out and feel like I derailed my life completely. I am 30 years old, finishing my doctorate this year, and engaged as of July 2023. We have our wedding venue booked for April 2025. Currently I am feeling so much shame centered around the baby coming before my actual wedding bc that’s just how I have been conditioned. My fiancé is ecstatic because he wanted to start a family and is fine with it being before the wedding, but I am just in such a low place mentally right now. But I feel most of it is because I am so anxious regarding the judgment I am anticipating from others. Especially my MIL who has truly been a nightmare and so awful to me since we got engaged all because he proposed privately and she was not there. So now it just feels like I’ve finally given her something to really ridicule me for and I’m just so depressed at this moment. Additionally, I told my father and he lmk that I was a disappointment and that also has me just completely devastated as that truly is my biggest supporter. Overall, just searching for some good vibes, comforting words, or anything.

PS. We considered getting court house married this year on our future wedding date, but I hate the idea of our actual wedding next year being considered a “fake” wedding. Because to me it’d be the real one. Just don’t know what to do.