Sex with my bf is repetitive and I’m kinda bored…

This is long winded so I apologise…

I don’t know what to do. Sex with my boyfriend is so stagnant and repetitive. We’ve fallen into this routine and I’m so so bored with it.

We start kissing, he gropes my ass, rubs my clit, I might cum, I stroke him, we do one or two of the following positions; missionary, cowgirl or doggy until he cums, then we cuddle for a minute then go to sleep.

I’m BORED. I know some might say “spice it up” ok I’VE TRIED.

As a side note - I don’t go down on him. I won’t go into it, but I have trauma surrounding the act and it’s not something I’m comfortable doing at this point in my life. And I’d feel too bad asking him to go down on me because I can’t return the favour. It has briefly crossed my mind asking about why he won’t do it unprompted, even as a once off in over a year together, but again, I won’t say much because of my own stance.

I’ve told him I like to be held down, spanked, neck kissed, lightly choked, I’ve told him more things that I’m into and he’s done maybe one or two of them once or twice after I’ve said it, but then seems to forget or doesn’t bother doing it again. I’ve asked him to make noise as I find nothing sexier than a guy who moans etc. but he won’t. It’s like fucking a brick wall. You won’t even hear this man breath. NOT EVEN WHEN HE CUMS. If I’m on top and he cums? I just keep going because I have NO IDEA that he came. Not a clue, until he tells me to stop and that’s not very sexy, actually kinda awkward.

I’ve asked what his turn ons and fantasy’s are more than once and all he’s ever said is ‘creampies’ which is cool and all, but I can’t use birth control except for condoms, so it is not really doable and not something I’m willing to risk.

He is not very experienced sexually, I’m pretty sure he even mentioned once ages ago he’s never actually gone down on anyone before. Which could be why he hasn’t done it, but as I said above, I feel bad prompting it because I won’t return the favour. It’s not that I believe it should always be expected in return, but it’s just something I can’t help but feel.

And yet he constantly wants sex. We don’t live together yet and only see each other on weekends because of hectic work schedules.

If we don’t have sex ‘enough’ he complains about it. To the point where I feel like every time he kisses me or gets close to me, it’s just him trying to initiate sex. It takes the romance out of embraces and sweet kisses. If I say anything about it, he gets upset that I think all he wants from me is sex, which is understandable. And I simply don’t find myself craving sex anymore because I’m bored with it. It’s always the same thing. He’s clearly not bored and that’s great, but I am and I don’t know what to do.

Before y’all say “leave him”, I fucking love this man. I don’t want to leave someone because the sex is a bit repetitive and everything else is great. I get that sexual compatibility is a big thing. And it’s not that I don’t enjoy sex with him - BECAUSE I DO. I get very turned on and into it and usually cum. I don’t mind the way we have sex because it’s good and familiar and straight to the point. But I just need some ideas on how to either get through to him, or find something to do that’ll mix it up a bit. (Please don’t suggest roleplay, it gives me the ick unfortunately).

Please help - without being negative about my relationship and telling me we should break up please.