Would you be mad if your bf treated you this way ?

I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my bf since last July. We’ve been together for 3 years but he had to move back to Brazil because his Visa expired (I’m still in LA). The last time I saw him was when we took a trip together to Hawaii in January of this year. Before he left to go back to Brazil we had a conversation where I communicated that we should at least try to see each other every 3 to 4 months and he agreed. But ever since he’s gone back to Brazil I keep asking when I’ll see him next and he keeps telling me that because he just got a new job we won’t really be able to see each other until the beginning of September which is about five months away.

A couple weeks ago, I brought up the idea of me visiting him in Brazil sometime in June and he told me that it wouldn’t be a good month to visit because he said that he’ll be too busy with his work schedule. He just got hired as a writer for a media company so he has been writing a book and a script for a documentary and I guess his contract doesn’t end until late August. What I don’t understand is how he can’t make time for me as he is able to work from his own place and usually is off by early evening. He told me that since they are filming in June it will be a busy month for him but when I asked him what he would be doing he just told me that he has to interview some people at the headquarters for the media company but that would only be a few times a week so I’m honestly just confused. And every time I try to bring up planning our trip to see each other in August he says he doesn’t know the exact dates that he will be getting vacation time and doesn’t want to ask his boss right now as he thinks it won’t look good since he got the job a few months ago.

He also doesn’t really seem to be making an effort when it comes to calling me or checking in with me about my day. He will occasionally call me to FaceTime but when he does it’s usually at 1 am when he’s about to go to sleep and he just seems really not engaged at all. The other night I called him and asked how his day went and then after that he didn’t really say much more and didn’t ask about my day so I was a bit annoyed and brought it up to him and he said it was selfish of me to assume that he’s not exhausted from his day and all the work he’s been doing. But I don’t really understand his perspective because he literally had enough energy to go to his kickboxing class that day but I guess taking a minute to ask me about my day is too tiring for him. So after that I kind of just ended our conversation and the next day never heard from him. The day after that I decided to call him and we talked for about an hour but the conversation just ended up with me telling him how much I missed him and how hard it been to be away from him. He said he missed me too but it’s sometimes honestly just hard to believe with the way he’s been acting. And then tonight I messaged him since I realized it was getting late in Brazil and sent him a message on WhatsApp to ask him how is day went. About 10 mins later I saw he was online on WhatsApp and Instagram but didn’t bother to even open my message . I’m getting to the point where I don’t even know what to do anymore . I love him a lot and want to make it work of course but I just feel like he’s not making an effort. Why would he be acting like this? Is it weird that he wouldn’t be able to make time for me if I went to Brazil in June? I feel like he could if he really wanted to right? Advice on what I should tell him? I’m worries that he’s keeping his options open but there’s no way to know. Unless anyone has advice ? And also, would you be upset if you were in my position and being treated this way?

Thanks in advance! 🙏