Give in or keep asking????

My husband is totally fine with us barely speaking, no affection, and barely any intimacy.

He’s 15 years older than I. I’m 37.

We been together for close to 17 years

Our marriage has always lacked the basics functionalities of a relationship. Even basic consideration lacks on his end.

We tried counseling for years and years and he makes 0 change. If he does it doesn’t last. I’ve asked and stated here’s my needs….my wants….

I am not saying compliment me daily. A hug would be nice occasionally. We have sex 4 times a year.

I desire human connection. I try to engage and talk to him. All I ever get is short answers like oh…geez…etc only way to engage a convo is if it’s about him or his interests.

He said he’s not the kind of person to do these things and if he’s gonna compliment me he doesn’t wanna lie…

So do I give in to how he wants things or keep asking?