I had my first daughter in April of 2018, and not long after that, I met my partner who I'm currently with. After I had my daughter, I got my life together I got my own little apartment and I got a job so I was able to afford and take care of her and have a roof over our head. I had ambitions to achieve, but soon after becoming pregnant with my second daughter, I continued working. Well after I had her I decided to move to a different state to be with my partner and I became a stay at home mom, and the past 5 years now almost 6 that’s what I been doing now with 4 kids. 2 are in school and I have 2 under 2 at home with me. After having my 4th baby I been struggling a bit, and now all of a sudden according to my partner I wasn’t the same person when we met I had ambitions and goals and now I don’t and I’m just trying to buy him off whatever that means, and him saying that hurt my feelings so much. I had goals to in life and I’ve been a stay at home mom for the past 5 years with 4 kids how does he expect me to achieve those goals or go to work? Also we can afford 4 kids and he has a good job. But that hit hard because I did have goals but I got pregnant back to back with my last 2 and being a stay at home mom it’s hard to achieve those goals. I’m sorry if nun of this makes sense I’m just venting. Then he said for example your friend has 3 kids and went to work and got daycare assistance but she had to stop going to school because she is also pregnant with her 4th. Like why does all this matter now to him? Just because I’m at home taking care of our kids doesn’t mean I don’t have goals I’m also 28 y/o.