How to be okay with uncomfortable situations in a relationship ?

Question

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now. Yesterday I found out that his ex girlfriend is in their friend’s text group chat. When he told me I was just kinda like “oh okay” and moved on because I’m working really hard on my reactions and creating a safe space so he feels like he can tell me anything no matter what.. but it makes me feel uncomfortable and I don’t know how to handle it😞
They were together for a year and a half. They share a friend group. They lived together. She broke his heart.. and she’s the reason he claims it’s taking him so long to open up to me emotionally (he hasn’t even told me he loves me much less verbally expresses much emotions). 
Realistically, it would be bitchy to say “you either have to leave the group chat or you have to kick her out of it” and I would never say it to him.. but what are some other options on how I can handle this situation or help myself feel more comfortable in this situation? I’m definitely the type of person that feels like exs should stay in the past so I don’t know what to do😞

Answer

If his friends are still friends with her and they’re in the same group then there’s not much he can do anyway, he’s not solely in charge of who can and can’t stay in the group. She’s not there by his choice and it doesn’t sound like he has any interest in interacting with her within that chat much less individually outside of that group, and he told you about it which is a good thing. Try not to overthink it, he’s not actively trying to keep her in his life, they just have mutual friends.

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so like, it’s been 5 months i think that’s early for an i love u but why are u with someone who can’t really express their emotions about u to u? why do u settle for so little? he should have healed before he decided to jump into a relationship with u, it’s not fair to u

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It’s been 5 months. Why are you expecting an I love you at this stage? 
This is his friend group and what happens when people date in those groups- he isn’t and shouldn’t be expected to drop all of his friends because of this.

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That’s rough but she’s a friend of the others so you don’t really have control over that as you know. I’m sure it’s hard but I’d try to let it go. If he has given you no reason he’s doing anything behind your back or anything I’d try and forget about it. I’m sure he knows it’s weird for you but it’s a weird situation for him too

How to be okay with uncomfortable situations in a relationship ?

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