Is this true

I was venting to my bff about my relationship. I told her how my husband doesn’t really treat me to nice things or help me financially like a provider. I jokingly said i don’t feel like a woman with him, i might as well have a penis. She laughed and said she liked her vagina. I laughed and responded my vagina is useless lol. She then laughed and said maybe i need to learn to use my vagina. I laughed but then got to thinking maybe i am not womanly enough. My husband has told me im not soft enough and that if i was he would do more for me. He told me he feels like he is married to another man. But he doesn’t lead and doesn’t keep his word so its very hard for me to trust him. He also doesn’t help me financially in anyway. My friend’s baby’s father goes all out for her. He provides when she is behind, he seems to be crazy about her. Are there any tips i can take to improve my relationship?