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Hi, ive been in a relationship for 6 months now.
He wants to have sex i want to have sex too but I'm scared, I'm scared cuz I'm a virgin, and I'm scared of having a baby cuz I'm too young.
I don't want to use the pill or IUD cuz I don't like the bleeding and the rumors around it
And then I recently found out im allergic to condoms i dont know if its all or that brand
And also we are in a long distance relationship kinda
He comes home once in a while
Its just that it would really hurt if I give my flower to someone and the person dumps me or something
I trust him but people change and I'm scared of that
Any advice on when I should have sex, birth control, and how to get rid of my trust issues😪😖

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If youre this young, the relationship is likely to end at some point. If sleeping with someone and then breaking up is a concern of yours, I would wait.

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Please girl value urself and don’t give yourself away so easily

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There are non latex condoms you can get. It’ll say it on the box.
As for birth control it reacts to everyone different. I have the copper iud and I am loving it.

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They do have non latex condoms. Lifestyles skyns is my preferred brand. Honestly I would wait. We can’t tell you if he’s gonna hit it and quit it once he gets what he wants. Not sure how well endowed he is. Small or not. Only time I ever had issues with condoms was when it was small he would shrink like an inch worm and it would leak since he no longer filled the space at least
That was my theory as to why I kept getting pregnant with condoms. If he’s not the one. You aren’t in a committed relationship that is exclusive. Him being long distance you never know what he’s doing when he’s not with you. Then I would wait. Most relationships at 18 us usually don’t last. I’m 45 and finally found my person. A lot of jerks and crap I dated before him. If I could take it all back I would have stayed single until my 40s and not wasted my time on any of them. Sex wasn’t good until my 40s. Most were selfish and only cared about themselves. My favorite jerk line ever. “Well it’s not gonna suck itself” boy did I pick jerks that just used me  for years. We can’t make the decision for you. Only you can.

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You can get latex free condoms which may solve the allergy issue. There are potential side effects to all hormonal birth control but you won’t know which is right for you until you try. Not everyone reacts to them, I’ve been on the pill for years and haven’t noticed a difference. But if you’d rather just stick with condoms then there’s nothing wrong with that either. First you need to ask yourself, if it doesn’t last will you still be glad it was him? Or will you regret it?
If you feel like you’re ready and you trust this guy, and feel like you’ll be happy to lose it to him then there’s nothing to be scared of. You can’t control what will happen afterwards, but that’ll be true no matter who it ends up being. I’ve never regretted my first, and never will, despite all the crap and heartbreak he put me through. Life is messy, but these experiences are a necessary part of it and they’re what make you feel most alive. You make connections, memories, love and of course mistakes and you learn and grow. At the end of the day it’s just sex, don’t put so much pressure on it and just enjoy it.

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How did you find out you're allergic to condoms? Is it a latex allergy? If so, there's non-latex condoms. If you're not interested in the birth control pill or an IUD, then I recommend being abstinent until you're on birth control.

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