Apologies in advance, this is horribly emotionally written.

My partner and I got confirmation on Thursday from my doc that we are about four weeks pregnant with our first baby! Hooray! We are both 35.

Because this will be a high risk pregnancy due to health issues (I didn’t even know if I would be able to carry a child until I saw a high risk ob earlier this year) so we decided to tell our mothers and immediate family over the weekend incase I need extra support. Our friends and extended families will wait until around the 12 week mark.

So our announcement didn’t exactly go as planned (and does anything ever?) We were at dinner for my partners birthday. My partner kept starting to make speeches. But his mother was oblivious and off in her own little world and kept walking around the table to talk to my mother and his step dad and just ignored my partner. This went on for ten minutes and my partner got really frustrated.

In the end, he just looked his mother in the eye, and blurted out “you’re going to be a grandmother”. She was stunned and didn’t know what day it was.

My mother grabbed me and hissed in my ear, and said “you’re not are you?” Followed by something along the lines of “it would have been nice to know earlier”.

To blurt something out like that is uncharacteristic for my partner and he apologised for to me for how it was announced to our mothers because it’s not how either of us wanted to do it.

That was Friday. It’s now Monday.

My mother has still not congratulated me. I still feel like a 16 year old who has done the wrong thing.

She just rang me up, told me she had never been so upset in all her life and cried the whole way home Friday night, screamed down the phone at me and me because my partner “told his mother but not her and she was humiliated and left out” and when I tried to talk to her about it, she hung up on me.

And on top of the morning sickness, i just feel really, really crap. And sadly my dad passed away a few years ago, so i only have one living parent.