Don't really know why I'm posting this but I just feel I need to get it off my chest (sorry long post)

Me and my boyfriend have been together over 4 years. We moved in together very quickly and discussed marriage within the first year. We booked our wedding even though he did not actually officially propose however I found out the true extent of his debts and cancelled until these were more under control. We've had many ups and downs things from his ex to financial disagreements to his son causing a lot of trouble and trust was broken in the early days. However he has worked extremely hard and got his debts in order and nearly all cleared, his ex is out of our lives (his son still has contact however which means I do not have contact with my step son) and he does things that others would probably take for granted such as drive me anywhere I want to go ,jumps on board with most of my spontaneous adventures 😂, watches the children for me to have a good soak in the bath buys me treats from the shop etc. here's where my problem is about 5 months ago I just had a gut feeling he was hiding something which was odd because we had built the trust right back up so I decided to check his phone but his phone password had changed and I could not get onto it I asked him for his new password and he went mental he wad do angry and refused to give it me 🚩🚩 . I asked him to stay at his mum's whilst I got my head straight but ultimately we decided to give it another go and start couples counselling. We went once and he made a comment that he was only going because I want to and not because he wanted to so I just didn't see the point paying if he wasn't fully committed. Ever since then I just feel more and more numb to our relationship he has almost completely stopped sleeping with me (from every day pretty much to I'm lucky if we have it once a week and I always initiate it) now I just feel like we are room mates we don't cuddle anymore we barely talk and even though I really want to be with him and don't want to lose him I can't help feeling like this isn't love anymore and it's more habit and fear of change