My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years now and over the last year I’ve started to feel like our relationship is truly going nowhere.

We got engaged a year after dating and I made it clear I didn’t want a long engagement, I wanted a very simple wedding and that was all I wanted.

The first reason we pushed off our wedding date was due to the death of my fiancés best friend (the best man), then we had some financial issues due to a misunderstanding with the government, finally it felt like we could have our wedding when he told me that he lost his birth certificate in a river at 16 and never replaced it!

Last year was the hardest year we’ve had together and I don’t feel like things will get better from it; last summer I had some very serious “complications” with my mental health which lead to two hospitalizations. The first one was the most serious and I was in the hospital for quite a bit due to it, when I was discharged the doctors made it very clear that I was not to be alone for awhile, the second we got home my fiancé told me he had planned to go ATVing that day with some of his friends and asked if I wanted to go, I explained that I had been in the hospital for quite a bit and would love nothing more than to shower, eat real food and rest at home. He got quite upset with me saying that if I hadn’t gotten discharged that day I won’t have been discharged till after the weekend and he could’ve went ATVing.

After the second hospitalization I just sucked it up when I got home I went straight back to work the day after and that was that.

We ended up moving to my fiancés hometown two months later, I don’t drive and I explained that I was feeling very isolated and asked if my fiancé could spend more time at home on his days off which never happened…

Over the past year just about every single month we get into the same two arguments; one about him not touching me, and him not being home.

I have to beg my fiancé to cuddle me and nine times out of ten he only “cuddles” me till he gets hard then we have 2 minute sex and he leaves me to go do whatever, we barely have any sex in a month we might have sex once or twice and he’s the only one who “gets off”.

Every time I bring up how little time he spends at home he always snaps and tells me that “shit always needs done”

I understand things aren’t good in my relationship but I’m not looking for criticism I want advice on how to make things better or what I can do.

I want my relationship with my fiancé back.

And if anyone says to leave him I can’t; I don’t have anywhere to go, I have three pets I need take with me, I am currently unemployed (we just moved) and I don’t drive.

I want to be together I just want help to know how to.