Am I wrong for defending my husband?

Question

I'm a cop wife. My husband is a police officer so he's in the most hated profession. I've always supported my husband and everything he's done. He got suspended a few weeks ago because he technically broke the law. I'm not going into detail but the short version is a young girl was killed. They questioned suspects and one of the suspects was her older brother. My husband like any police officer wanted justice for this girl and I'll admit he did more than he needed to. 
He interrogated the brother as cops do. Where he went wrong is the brother is technically a minor and you cannot legally question minors without their parents and he made that kid cry. When I say minor, he's 16. He isn't a small child. If he had done it he would have been charged as an adult so he's not some little kid. The person was found. Wasn't my brother, but the family didn't want my husband to have anything to do with their daughter's case anymore and reported him for questioning a minor without their parent there. 
They made this whole big thing about it to the point my husband's job said they were going to just suspend him for a short while. I think it's so weird that they care more about getting my husband in trouble than their own daughter's death. Some people who are friends of that family posted about my husband in the town Facebook group and I've been replying saying he's done so much for this town and people are mad he questioned a teenager. Not child. I have been defending him in comments and my MIL told me to stop. It's making things worse. 
My brother is completely against what my husband did. I said he was doing what he thought was right and my brother said that's the problem with a lot of cops. They think they can do what they want. So me and my brother aren't talking. Am I wrong for defending my husband? I know why the laws are the way they are to protect kids but had that kid done it if he can be charged as an adult he can be questioned as an adult

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People like you guys are why people hate and don’t trust the police. Not only did he violate someone’s rights, there’s no accountability & you’re being a clown defending him. Bad officers like this ruin it for the millions of good officers out there. I hope he losses his job

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16 is still a child, he wasn’t supposed to question a minor without his parents AND made the kid cry.  what if someone did that to your innocent child after your other child just died? you’re a grown ass woman, grow up and stop arguing with people on the internet. your husband was wrong, get over it

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Sorry. Your husband is an idiot for several reasons. Also even if the kid had done it and confessed to your husband, because he violated that child's rights the confession could have been thrown out in court anyway.

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Your husband probably seriously traumatized a kid who is in the midst of a family crisis and deep loss of his little sister. His job is to protect but instead he inflicted harm. Why would he even assume the brother did it? If he had no history of violent crime, then it's absurd that he even thought that, let alone interrogated him. This is exactly why people dont trust the police, because some of them get on a high horse and overstep their boundaries (and violate law and ethics) at the expense of others and then get a slap on the wrist. Anyone else in any other field would lose their job in an instant for violating the law.

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Your husband broke a person’s right and it ends up not being the killer, which made it worse. I understand it was probably heat of the moment and being passionate about the case but it’s his job to stay professional. The parents had the right to complain. You defending him PUBLICLY is making him look worse because it seems like he’s not taking accountability. You can defend him all you want behind closed doors but if you or him act like there’s not fault from your or his end that can lead to worse outcomes. He’s lucky he just got suspended and not fired, then he tried to find employment again he will have to explain why he was fired.

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I guarantee that if you just lost a child and found out your other child was taken in for questioning without parental knowledge and representation, and was questioned to the point of tears!!!, you would’ve lost your mind. A minor is a minor, whether it’s a toddler or a teenager. It was illegal and morally wrong.

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Your husband is not one of the “good guys”. He’s the bad apple that spoils the bunch. He harassed a child. He broke the law he’s supposed to be upholding. People like him who abuse their power, and people like you who defend them, are the literal worst. 
This is why we can’t have nice things. You’ve embarrassed yourself here.

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You are 100% wrong. Stop defending him on Facebook. Stop pretending what he did was okay, and stop trying to justify it. He was in the wrong and now has to deal with the consequences of his own actions.

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Your reasoning is flawed. If the child was charged it would be up to the courts to decide if he would be charged as an adult not a police officer.

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16 IS a child, sorry. What he did was/is wrong. You find it weird the family of a girl who was just killed is upset that their 16 yr old was being interrogated and blamed for her death & unrightfully so? I don’t think the family cares more about their son than figuring out who killed their daughter. Your husband was wrong & you can defend him all you want, but it doesn’t make it any less wrong. There are rules in place for a reason.

Am I wrong for defending my husband?

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