So, I’ve been in therapy for over a year now and am now on my third therapist. I go to a part time place, so my first two found full time jobs that they quit and moved for. I always felt like I could really make progress at first, but then it just felt like we talked about gossip and baby stuff (I’m pregnant) every session and didn’t actually cover anything.

Am I supposed to be the one bringing up things to talk about? I’ve told them I have mood, anxiety and anger issues, but nothing seems to be brought up to understand why or really figure out what’s going on.

This new therapist I’m seeing, tonight was my third time with her. I noticed it last time and even more tonight, that she used a LOT of her own personal stories every time I brought something up. I don’t get asked any questions. And when I did bring up that my MIL and I have a rocky relationship, and I was upset when she was 15 minutes late to pick up my son from school, she went off on another story of hers and said “Well what if she was dead on the side of the road?” Obviously that would’ve been different. But I couldn’t say anything because she was off on a tangent of her own.

And she went off on how we need to appreciate every day and live it like it’s our last every single day, but I couldn’t even get a word in to tell her that I can’t think that way because I put WAY too much pressure on myself when I do and it gives me existential crisis every damn day.

Is this normal therapy stuff and I just need to speak up more? Do I need to bring more things up?

I just feel like I’m getting nowhere.