In a couple of hours I’m going to have my IUD removed after 2 years. My husband and I discussed that if we’re going to have a baby, we should get going now. We were thinking now because of our child being 2 and not waiting for us to be older. Now I’m freaking out because of what if I’m not ready. I couldn’t sleep all night. Please any advice?

Current situation:

I’m 26 he’s 34, I work as a LVN at one place and I’m going to get my BSN by end of 2025. My husband works two jobs (not high paying but they have a lot of career opportunities and it has awesome benefits. Both are well known companies) while he’s working on getting his bachelors degree in cybersecurity, he should have it by beginning 2026. So I have to have a stable income coming in because he can’t take on the rent by himself.

We live in a 1bed1bath apartment only 800 sqft, we have spacious bedroom but we can’t move into a bigger unit until I’m off of workers comp and I can get back my 100% salary. Only reason why we didn’t move because we didn’t want to be pay check to paycheck especially while we were in school. We also have our medium sized dog we love and see as family, so our size is going to be pushing it.

I fear judgement honestly, I know it’s silly, my husband’s family would be so thrilled and they keep pushing it. My family on the other hand always make me feel I’m going to ruin my life when I don’t listen to what they say, it’s heart wrenching. When we told them about our first child, my husband’s family jumped in cheer and threw the most awesome baby shower, my parents were trying to push for abortion and cried saying I ruined my life because we haven’t finished school, and still live in an apartment with a dog. My parents were even trying to get me to turn our dog to the pound…. It sucked. My parents are awesome grandparents but I hate them as my parents.

Lastly, I suffered bad PPD, I was so miserable and short fused. I couldn’t stand many things like my husband and our dog, which I feel so bad how mean I was. Of course I fear I will want to take another year off work and won’t be able to, and/or PPD is worse. Or I argue with my husband that I should be SAHM which can put us a financial jeopardy if he doesn’t have his higher paying job yet. I fear over all I or we will fail

UPDATE:

I decided to keep my appointment and have it removed but still use condoms in the meantime, I’m gonna give it a few more months. I appreciate everyone’s input and support without making me feel guilty or silly about the situation. As you guys had pointed out it would be easier to be more financially stable to bring baby #2, you guys are right I can’t let my parents dedicate our life and family. Honestly, my husband’s family think so high of us and feel like we have grown so much and becoming successful. I know if we were struggling they would come help. Whereas my parents they will never be satisfied, they did the same thing to my sister, unfortunately I wasn’t seeing it and took their side, my sister blocked communication to this day. I look at my life and my growing family no different from hers and they managed to make everything work and finally bought their beautiful home. My parents are on the judgy side with most people yet they want people to have sympathy for their struggles. Again thank you all! ♥️