Long story short my husband is going to Guatemala and leaving me and our 4 kids here. He asked if he could take our son (6) but I told him no because we’re behind with homeschool.

I am so tired of him making decisions like this and not asking me how I feel.

We already came to an agreement that we are going in January.

He asked me why I didn’t want to go and I was honest with him. I don’t like how his family there treats me. I don’t like how everyone sees me as a ‘cash cow’. I don’t like how his family wears my baby and runs off with my baby hours on end and gives me a mean look when I motions for them to give the baby back. I don’t like how they can’t take ‘no’ for an answer when they try to take the baby from me and give me dirty looks and talk bad about me.

I don’t want to offend anyone. Please don’t think I’m being rude to his family. I let them see the kids. They are the kids’ family to but I don’t like them running off with the kids’ and I don’t know where they are. They think they can do whatever they want with the kids.

Not to mention, his grandma is weird. She literally took her shirt off and was showing my 6 year old her boobs and trying to shove her boobs in his face… my first impression of them weren’t good. She also gave my 3 month baby at the time coke.

I told my husband what was stopping me from going and he’s not going to change it or communicate to them the problem so I’m not going. I will go in January like we discussed.

Him wanting to go was a ‘splurge of the moment’ and I don’t think it’s right.

I know. Guatemala is poor. It’s a third world country but my husbands family don’t want for anything. Everyone sends them money and they don’t spend it because they want to ‘save’ . So when my husband gets there they are going to all take advantage of him like they did last time and I don’t like that..

Please no rude comments. I’m just upset. I feel like my husband doesn’t talk to me or come to an agreement. We have zero communication and it’s all on him. Every time I try to talk to him he start with, “well you don’t submit to me….” Or “I’m the man of the house, I make the decisions” so it’s miserable… he’s so sexist and he believes my whole purpose of womanhood is to be in the kitchen like the people in Guatemala