We’ve been married for nearly five years now, and as time goes on I just find some things about our wedding to be embarrassing. My mom-in-law was extremely pushy, and I had lacked boundaries. My husband was pretty hands off with it all. She wanted us to do a dollar dance..to me it’s gross and tacky. I had told her no. But lone behold, the dollar dance was happening after I was a few drinks in. And people were suddenly paying to dance with me.

I also regret the cake smashing “tradition”. I smashed cake in my husband’s face, and now it only makes me cringe. Sometimes I wonder if that was like a bad omen. We also did the garter toss…and I honestly don’t understand the point in that either. It’s tacky to me now.

If I could do it all over again I’d literally get married in secret. And just go out for a nice dinner. Or save all that money for a getaway.

I’ve been to three weddings since, and none of the three did these things. I feel like I only embarrassed myself, and I just wonder if people in reality were cringing at it. Have you felt like this?