I’ve had this friends with benefits for almost 2 years. We used to work together and then I quit a few months ago. We agreed that we wouldn’t talk to or hookup with other people while we sleep together and “talk” or whatever you wanna call it. A lot of times, he “breaks up with me” and then comes back. While we’re “broken up” he’ll still talk to me all the time, ask what I’m doing and who I’m with, etc.

A few days ago I noticed he was starting to be more distant. Like would just not respond, started to ignore me, etc. Usually we talk every day all day long so I noticed it pretty quick. I started talking to him about it last night and he started to give me some answers that didn’t even make sense. Like “he has nothing to talk about since he’s not playing video games rn”. Then he just starts telling me how he doesn’t like that I go out late, that he doesn’t know all the people I talk to, that I talk to people and let them talk to me. Then started saying how I probably just hold onto him because I’m scared of being hurt but that it’s a waste of time and that I should talk to someone else instead of “this toxic thing”. I explained that I don’t even go out late reminded him of how he knows my friends, has my location, and I tell him everything I do. He just said “I guess”. So I said “can I have a real explanation so I’m not thinking we’re just done for no reason?” And he said “we’re not done. I never said that. I was explaining why I’m frustrated”. He was questioning me about my friends and then ghosted last night at 10 pm, responds 2 hours later and says he’s going to bed. Wake up and he’s posting but doesn’t text me. I text him, he talks a tiny bit but then says he’s busy and he’ll talk to me later. But since then, I’ve seen him go active a few times and nothing. I told him yesterday that if he’s talking to someone it’s fine just tell me and he swears he’s not.

I just think it’s really weird because before these couple of days, he’d get mad at me if I “ignored him” or didn’t talk to him as much throughout but now I have to beg for a response ?