Is my husband gay?

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Hi girls, I suspect my husband is gay or bi. I have been married to him for a year and a half and I think he has asked for sex only 7 times. I am always the one initating. He also.likes. to.do.it.from the butt a lot. I.noticed that when I get naked.he does.not.get turned on so he touches himself. When we do.it,he does.not like to.foreplay or is romantic. He just gives me a kiss and says turn around.Also,many times he says thatt he is tired or is too late. Often, he stays outisde our bedroom and waits until I am.asleep to come in. I think he is avoiding it. He also has no sympathy towards me. I gave birth 4 months ago and I.had to.beg him to.take.me. to the hospital. He has a best friend that he always answers the phone calls. His bestfriend calls him on FT. Even at a family dinner, he left the table to answer his friend. I think he is.hiding that he is.gay. I am starting.to.think he only.married.me since he is a pastor and wants to keep his job. Do you girls also think.he.is gay or.bi ? How can I get proof that he is gay or bi?

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For one begging him to take you to the hospital is insane, that alone should show you how much he cares about you & his child. It might not even be that he is gay, he could just be unattracted.

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The bigger issue is that you had to beg him to take you to the hospital. Why would you want to be with him or even have sex with him? I’d have so much resentment if it were me. You need to communicate your concerns with him and go from there. Try marriage counseling.

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Girl it sounds like he just doesn’t like you lol. I guess he could be gay but who cares if he is or not. If he is DL he won’t admit it. I would try to salvage the relationship but if he isn’t receptive, just leave.

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He may be bi but sounds like he just doesn't love or even really like you to be honest. If you love him and think he actually loves you ask him to couples therapy. If he won't work on things or figure things out leave. The not wanting sex is whatever...not all men have huge sex drives...but the hospital thing and just avoiding you in general would be an issue. Also sounds like maybe his aloofness/disinterest in sex isnt with your gender but with him not wanting to be with you. I'd tell him he we can work on things or you're done. Straight or bi you had to beg for a ride to the hospital...that has nothing to do with a person sexuality but rather he doesn't care.

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Either way he definitely clearly doesn't like you. Divorce either way. You don't need proof of anything

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Why do you need proof? Simply talk to him.

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Thank you girls, I did caught him once watching a gay movie so I thought perhaps he was hiding it since in the church denomination gay pastors sre not allowed. I wanted evidence since I am his second wife.  He told me that after his divorce which was around 9yrs ago, he had not gone out on dates or been with another girl until we got married. For some reason,I didnot see it weird but now I could see that it can be because he is gay. He told me his exwife filed divorce since she was crazy and gave false accusations of him such as addictions. It would not surprise me that he would also claim that I am crwzy and accusing him of false accusations. I would like to present evidence to the church leaders.

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It's possible or maybe he's just not attracted to you or has another woman. But the fact that you had to beg him to takeyou to the hospital is insane!! Time for a divorce!

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I think you have enough examples to know he's gay, and you are NOT the problem.

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You don't need proof to file for divorce.

Is my husband gay?

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