So my MIL and I get along but we are really different. Her personality is very strong/dominant, we mesh well though because I’m pretty soft spoken and go with the flow. But because of this, spending lots of time together can be draining for me. My husband’s father wasn’t present so she was the only one there for him and now he feels like he owes her. It’s like he holds so much guilt that she put everything into raising him and now he has his own life. He recently said something about having her live with us when we buy a house, because she struggles financially and is really lonely. It’s not something I want to do at all, but I’m not sure how to say it. My main problem is she often acts like my husband is her husband. Sometimes even like he’s her father? When we go out to eat, do activities together, go shopping, etc. we ALWAYS pay for everything (we really don’t got it like that right now) and I could get past that, but she just takes it too far. She’s like a giddy child asking her dad “can I have this, can I have that?” to everything she sees. He feels bad, so he gets her whatever she wants. We have a joint bank account and I feel awkward saying anything even when it gets to be too much. We’re still paying off our wedding and trying to buy our first house, we’re holding off on starting a family until we are more comfortable financially. Kids will be a whole other issue if she lives with us, I just know we’d butt heads on how to raise children. She also can be very demanding with spending time with my husband, and sometimes gets an attitude when he prioritizes spending time with me. How do I navigate this… Is it wrong of me to not want his mom living with us? I kinda feel like a bad person for being so against the idea.