Florida. Hi , I’m a 23yr old single FTM to a 9 month old. I’ve taken care of my daughter alone without any help from “dad”. I put him on child support when the papers came in the mail but we are still waiting for him to go do his samples but he’s not going. Matter fact he ran away to Honduras & has been there for months. He never has asked how the baby is or if she needs anything. He’s seen her one time when she was one month and one day old bc he finally asked to see her and he only lasted one hour before he had to leave. Now two days ago apparently he’s back in Florida and wants to see her, i obviously told him no bc he doesn’t need to see her and then he said it’s my fault bc i know he hasn’t been here and i told him that he can be over there and still text to ask about her or ft so she can know her “father” but he never did. He only responded that he’s wants to be in her life and that he’s here rn & I thought about it , I don’t wanna deny my daughter her chance of knowing her dad so i asked him when can he see her and he responded that right now. I responded I’m not taking the baby out in a hurricane bc it’s too dangerous so he was like your right, whenever ur free. Tomorrow I work night shift so I am able to meet up in the AM if I decide to go meet him. Thing is my parents would get so mad if I let him see her bc he basically disappeared and does not care about her.

Do I have to let him see her? Am I wrong for feeling like he doesn’t have to see her? If he cared, he would always check on her but he doesn’t. I have no one to speak to about this because everyone is dealing with their own problems rn. How do I take the emotion out of this? Btw me and him were never officially together, we just were FWB for a year and a half before I got pregnant and never had sex again after. Obviously at one point I cared, loved and even respected him. But that went out the window when he sent me a message saying he ain’t want nothing to do with her bc she doesn’t have his last name in April when he found out I put him on child support.