I usually don’t find out the gender I lost my first baby later in pregnancy (still born) ever since I don’t find out nor do I care about the gender at all. My 2nd living baby I had and I wanted to tell her when she got to the hospital because my first living baby was born during COVID my husband didn’t get the experience of walking out and saying “ITS A GIRL!” So I was hoping to give him that for the second baby well a couple hours after she texted me not to ask how I or the baby were and to check on health etc… no she texted to tell me how selfish I am and how that’s not fair to her not to find out the gender right there and then on the phone etc I cried all night after being in labor for 15hrs and pushing out a baby because my mother was saying such ridiculous stuff to me.

Anyways fast fwd to baby #3 is due in March… I just announced a couple weeks ago at 13 weeks pregnant. First thing that comes out of her mouth is are you going to find out what you’re having… I hope to god so. And to be honest every single person we have told except 3 people have mentioned how they hope it’s a boy… or that my husband needs a son… or does it have a penis… I’ve heard it all non stop and I’ve had it. It’s sucked the fun out of it for me and I think I’m just going to break down and find out this time so people can leave me the hell alone. I could care less what gentiles is on this baby honest to god and No my husband truly doesn’t care either. Well earlier after causing a big ordeal again about the babies gender earlier my mom messages me late at night to tell me she had a dream I’m having a boy and I’m naming him Gabriel. I told her it’s a 50/50 chance and idc what it is just want a healthy baby. And I told her if it’s a boy his name will not be Gabriel. Well now she’s pouting and having a fit about that.

I love my mom she’s my mom no matter what but she has a serious problem.. I’ve had it and idk what to do anymore. My kids loveee her and she treats them different than me (thank god). There is so much more to the story… but why do people think they should say anything about the babies gender? I just don’t get it. I truly don’t. I try to understand her but I don’t. This is my baby not hers. If I don’t care about the gender why does she…