My bf and I have been together 2+ years and have been long distance the whole time, but we visit each other every month.

Twice before I hadn’t felt loved by him and we talked about it and moved past it. But, I knew I couldn’t feel like that again.

Today he said that he feels I don’t “emotionally regulate” before coming to him and he always feels like he has to help me. He feels I’m dependent on him & it’s causing him to get overwhelmed.

The problem is, that’s 200% not what’s happening. He was visiting and something upset me Sunday unrelated to him. I took time to myself and calmed down a bit. Then I asked if he wanted to play some board games. I was still a little upset so I wanted to tell him what happened, but apparently he was overwhelmed with me still being upset and felt I didn’t try to self regulate before coming to him. He was also so awkward bc I was sitting on the bed and he just stood 2 feet away holding my hand.

I just don’t know if I feel the effort from him. I was literally just telling him the small thing that upset me. He’s avoidant and a guy so he’s always trying to fix/help things but I NEVER ask him to do so. He’s the one that does it to himself. What does he think I do the other 27 days of the month?

It just feels like he doesn’t care so I’m starting to not care. Idk what to do. Do some guys actually care?