Was I wrong for starting a fight with my husband

I've been with my husband for 7 years. We knew each other in college and he asked me out once. I said no. He never tried again. Never chased me. Nothing. Then about 2 years later I asked him out and he said yes. At Thanksgiving my sister poked fun at that saying how a woman is never supposed to chase a man but I did and that her husband continued to ask until she said yes. So I did ask my husband why he only tried one time and gave up. He said it's because his dad raised him to Respect others boundaries and that no is a complete sentence. I said yeah with sex. He said it's just how he was raised. I said it feels kind of shitty that he didn't even bother chasing me. He said he's not a chaser and that either you want to date him or you don't and he takes that at face value. I did start a fight over it because it made me feel like I wasn't worth fighting for and after an hour of arguing he yelled "If I would have known you were the type to play games I wouldn't have dated you at all!" And left. I cried. He stayed gone for hours and came back and ignored me. Things are still kind of tense. Am I the one in the wrong? Do I need to apologize?