Is my dating app message bad?

Question

just turned 30 and never had a boyfriend. What’s upsetting is a I thought I would date in my 20s, but it’s been 10 years of dating apps and trying to put myself out there in other ways with abolsutrly no luck

Recently, I get a lot of matches on dating apps, they message me, I always reply back and try be witty and flirty, and they ALWAYS stop replying. I’m not lying that this has happened 300 times this year. I have 300 matches just sitting there that stopped replying to me, this is I starting to make me feel doomed

So 2 days ago, got a dating aPp match, this is our convo.. once again The man has stopped replying even though I felt our chat and banter was good

Answer

Your texts aren’t easy to respond to. Your texts sound like how AI responds on chatgpt…a bit robotic and not personable at all. I think the flirting and banter that you’re attempting gets lost in translation. The “just testing out this mythical concept…” comment can come across as sarcastic…which could be off putting for some. The “apparently humans go on something called dates” comment was extremely cringe to me but I can acknowledge that I’m 25 and may just have a different way of communicating. I’m not sure how you would expect someone to reply to the vanilla slice being an Australian specialty thing and I think you let too much time lapse to continue the dessert conversation…when I read it I was like “lol okay”. He could’ve lost interest because you took 4 days to respond to him or he could be like you and rarely checks the app. Anyways, you say this has happened 300 times, maybe it’s time to switch up your approach?

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Eh yeah. Definitely cheesy & cringey 😬 & I agree you do sound like a ChatGBT robot which is understandably why they stop responding.

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I really don’t think you did anything wrong. Maybe it’s because am a sucker for someone I can banter with but, I really don’t agree with the other responses lmao. sure as hell beats the usual “hey wyd”. is it possible he just hasn’t seen it yet? either way, the dating world is rough right now. it takes a while to find someone where you both connect with each other, but it will happen

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I don’t know, If it was me I’d prefer to be more direct. It sounds like a lot of confusing banter.

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This isn’t normal conversation. This is fake and surface level. Stop trying to be “witty” and make banter happen.

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This conversation ended before it began. There is nothing flirty, cute or inviting going on 😭 felt like school or work.

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The whole conversation sounds like AI to me. Both sides.

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Is this guy in purple, the same as the one in yellow in your comments? The guy in purple… He literally told you that going on dates is too much effort. Subjects evaporate when the realness of intimacy might be unavoidable… i'm thinking that means he hasn't gotten lucky with getting someone in bed. I think when he was saying you hadn't been twirled in a dance for a long time, he was talking about the horizontal tango. Your response was not what he was looking for.  that might be why he stopped communicating. Did you try to communicate with him again after this?

Is my dating app message bad?

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