Husband got another assault charge

I'm honestly extremely embarrassed right now. I want advice but please don't advise me to leave my husband because he IS a good person. My husband has been charged with assault for the second time. The first time was back in 2013 when he was 19 and extremely intoxicated in public and making a scene. His neighbor called the police and he punched two police officers and got tased for it. I met him and couple years after that arrest and he told me that's why he doesn't drink because he's not a fun drunk. He becomes a sad drunk and then when he gets too drunk he goes crazy. So most of our relationship he didn't drink. We have twin boys together. Last year was when he gave alcohol a chance again. So he would drink a beer. Then drink wine. He would even a little tipsy at times and he was fine. He decided to go out drinking with his friends. He hadn't gotten drunk since he was 19 and decided that it must just have been because he young. Well he got drunk and got arrested again and another assault charge. He got mad that he was cut off and started cussing the restaurant manager out. They called the cops. My husband had hurt his hand because he punched out our car window and now paramedics were there trying to help him because his hand was bleeding and a repeat from 11 years ago. This time he hit a woman!(I'm not saying that makes it worse. It's all bad) But it was the female EMT who was just trying to help him with his hand and then he hit the cops and they restrained him. He went to jail and he called me crying. He got out a few nights ago and he's awaiting court and he's pleading guilty which will put him on probation. He said that he has to accept he can't drink and he's sorry he put me through this and he's embarrassed by his actions. I'm humiliated by his actions. He's on our Facebook just busted. I'm embarrassed and so ashamed of him but I also don't want to divorce because he's an overall really great guy.

@Katie what I mean is when he's sober (which was our entire relationship) he's a great guy. I don't know what demons come out when he gets wasted but he's always been a great husband. Amazing friend. And loving father.

@Jamie I know it's not an excuse. Which is why me and him talked and agreed that alcohol is not for him and for our marriage to work he can't drink. He is writing apology letters to the people he assaulted for court and he's accepted he can't ever drink and alcohol isn't something that's ever going to be for him.

Edit: My husband is not perfect. He was s a flawed human. When I say my husband is a really great guy I mean he's been great to me. Great to our kids and a good friend and cares about people. He is flawed. I have suggested therapy to him in the fast but unrelated stuff. Mainly to deal with some childhood trauma and he has said he would think about it. He has a hard time trusting therapist because he had one in high school that abused him. But I will be telling him that he needs to see one.

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