Pregnant & scared to tell best friend

Update: I told her and she was so supportive and she was very excited for this baby. It was a reaction I wasn’t expecting but I’m thankful. This is my last child and If this baby is a girl, I am going to name the baby after her. My husband loves the idea and is praying it is a girl so we can use the name 😭 I love her so much. She is such a blessing in our lives and I don’t know what I’d do without her.

So my best friend who I call my sister and I mean she and I call each other sister when referring to each other in conversation, we are close and I love her to pieces, we both were ready for our last kids. We decided it would be so special to try and have them same time/as close together as we could.

I know that’s not everyone’s cup of tea but we have such a beautiful “blended” family and it would be so special if we managed that. Well she has always had a much harder time conceiving so basically the plan was for her to be pregnant first and then I’d start trying. She became pregnant and was just about 12 weeks when I started trying, well she lost the baby. I stopped trying because I didn’t want to do it without her at that time. I wasn’t going to keep trying right then like it never happened (1000% my choice she never mentioned my trying or anything) and I also didn’t want to be pregnant after her loss because I wouldn’t want to add onto her grief. I just wanted to love and support her. Now obviously if I was then she wouldn’t have been upset at ME because my husband and I did the deed during my ovulation and it was time for us to wait our two week wait to see if it worked and THEN she miscarried so there was nothing I could do at that point. Well I didn’t end up pregnant and I said okay good I’m not going to worry about that right now because I wanna be there for her. Now I personally don’t want to have anymore by a certain age and that would mean if I didn’t get pregnant by the end of next year then I was going to be done. Again- personal choice as far as the age thing.

Well… my husband and I had been using spermicide and he works away from home a couple days a week so honestly we haven’t been intimate as often as we’d like but we used that when we did manage to have intimate time. I wasn’t ovulating at the time so I wasn’t worried.

I figured hey I’m not ovulating currently and we will use spermicide like always so I’m not worried I’m gonna be pregnant.

Well I’m pregnant… We are happy. This baby is a blessing but my problem is this is December and she lost her baby only 3 months ago.

I’m just worried about telling her because she is my person. She’s who I wanna tell the MOST because she is such a blessing in my life and again I know she wouldn’t be angry at me but I know she will be saddened and maybe even angry at her circumstances because this loss hit her hard. I can’t hide the pregnancy forever. But I love her so much and want to be sensitive to her feelings. I mean I JUST found out yesterday so I wasn’t planning on telling her or anyone else yet anyway but.. yeah that’s been heavy on my mind.

I didn’t intend to ask for advice necessarily, I think this was mostly just venting but thank you for listening ❤️ and prayer requests for her, my sister, she truly is such a beautiful person and deserves all the amazing things this life has to offer.