My SO didn't get paternity leave so the few days he took off for the birth and hospital stay came out of his paycheck. So we're understandably strapped and barely made bills. Well, his family has been offering to have me over with our two kids (3 yo, and now 1.5 wk old for everyday for about a week. I appreciate it but they have this illusion that they're going to let me sleep while they take care of them. I exclusively breastfeed and my 3 yo has been a nightmare. I dont want to leaking breastmilk and tears all over myself in someone else's home while my 3 yr acts bat shit crazy. But now they've offered to help with a few groceries if I'll come this Sunday and i feel obligated. I wish my SO hadn't told them we were struggling. I wish i wasn't going over there without him. (He'll be at work.) And i wish they hadn't offered. I'd honest to God rather eat rice and beans for the next week rather than take charity from his well-to-do family. I'm so frustrated and embarrassed. My SO wants me to go, so i will; but I'm dreading it. I've been slightly depressed the past few days and I'd appreciate just being left alone. 😢😭 anyone else dealing with help that they'd rather not have?