My brother is married now , and his wife was pregnant with twins , they also have another child who is like 3. I got invited to the baby shower, and the wife was like “I don’t want anyone coming to touch my kids after I give birth , especially in laws” and I was kinda hurt . They are legally married , and during the birth of the kids, I was called in to donate blood for her , and also helped pay the bill. My family also chimed in to pay fees for the first baby when she was attending school since my brother was broke .

I go visit them like once in two months , with bags of shopping as a decent guest , but now I’m kinda confused and hurt , because my brother also has no problem with me visiting them but the wife is very unwelcoming.And I’m trying to understand why someone would say that. I also don’t want to spend my money, energy and then not even get appreciated.

This situation is confusing, or is that the general feeling with someone’s in-laws ?