Boundaries with family especially in laws

 is anyone else having problems with family in laws with rules that are going to be scheduled for including vaccination, kissing all that good stuff me and my boyfriend are being called over protectors and being dramatic because we want to take care of our child and we want to make sure that our baby nugget sick in the first month of their life and I just feel like my boundaries are being over stepped I also feel like they just think I’m a bitch does anyone or any one have gone thru a similar situation any advice