My ex gave up his father’s rights… what now?

Hi,

Two years ago- my ex gave up his father rights after a lengthy family court case. Due to domestic violence during my pregnancy, I left him at 7 months- in which when baby was born the family case begin. He wanted 50/50 and I wanted supervised visitation until him and my child became acquainted, then I was open to allowing 50/50 when my child was a bit older. He kept challenging supervised visits, getting new lawyers and putting motions on the case. In 2023- after fighting in court for two years to come to an agreement and never haven met our child- he gave up his father’s right.I was crushed bc at the time- I wanted him and our child to establish a relationship & for it to be in a safe environment… I never wanted him to give up his rights, bc I know how it feels growing up to not have a biological father present. My child is also mixed, so I don’t want her growing up feeling an identity crisis or like her White side neglected/ abandoned her.

My child is now at preschool age and is starting to ask questions like, “Mommy, where is my dad”. Etc. Her dad does not pay child support, so I try to explain to her in a way that makes sense for her brain.

I am planning on wanting to relocate out of the Midwest within a year, so I had an idea to contact her father to see if he had any change of heart before I relocate- so I called him. I found his number on Google as he have a new phone number now. He answered, asked who I was & then hung up the phone when I told him..we have not spoken in a little over 4 years since I left him when I was pregnant.

I’m still trying to process everything bc ideally I would like to have a civil conversation with him and set up a time that they can meet- without contacting a lawyer- as I believe her father is bitter towards me and resents me and for that reason he doesn’t want anything to do with us…

Idt her father is a good partner, however, I do believe he is capable of being a good father.

I’m not soo sure how to go about this or if I should try to contact him again? I kind of feel like the hanging up the phone on me was my confirmation for me, but I spoke with my sister and she feels that I should try again.

I just don’t want to put anything in writing or to reach out to a lawyer bc I fear there will be another case that will drag out…

Any advice or suggestions would be great.

Thanks