Partner explodes on me and blames me for everything

I understand that maybe I’m not meeting his needs, he expresses to me that he wants me to cook more, and clean up and finish the laundry on time. I’ll admit I slack with laundry and the only cleaning I do is picking up after the dog and my daughter. And I don’t cook often sadly. I work full time at the hospital and idk I just want my rest days to be rest days. I’m 25 weeks pregnant and I find myself hurting after a day of work and I like to rest when I’m off sometimes I only have one or two days off.

I know I should probably cook more meals when I am off and be more motivated to but it just ends up not happening or I eat stuff from the grocery store that’s frozen. So he’s angry and yelling at me about all this, and calling me names saying I’m a selfish bitch because I bought myself more clothes and didn’t get him anything. I explained to him I only bought more clothes because I’m pregnant and didn’t have anything to wear that fits me well.

He hasn’t bought me any clothes at all but he lies and says he bought me 3 outfits. When anytime he’s been with me and we shopped together I bought my own clothes. He just brings out a random sweater (it’s spring wtf) and says he bought it for me and it’s not even my right size either. I’m definitely not petite at 25 weeks pregnant.

Anyway, I get that he’s mad that maybe I slack around with the cleaning and cooking and laundry. But he’ll just go on and on about it even when he’s said his piece and I’m upset and crying because he doesn’t just say he wants the laundry and cooking to be done, he’ll call you rude names say how selfish you are and how I’m unhappy and how he doesn’t want to live his life like this. And that I’m a bitch and all this other stuff.

Like wtf I’m unhappy because you keep making me unhappy?? And do you think I want to live my life like this? He’s getting so angry and yelling and all while I’m driving. I just barely reply because I don’t want to continue an angry conversation when I’ve already said I’ll try to do better and that I’ll pick up the slack.

When he doesn’t cook either and barely does laundry. He has his friend basically do it and then he takes credit for it. Then he’s like omg you bought clothes but not water, because we have no water at the house right now. But the reason why I’m not even buying the water is because he’s capable of buying it himself. That’s one for the only things he’s bought for the house so far and I’ve had to buy everything else. That’s why I sometimes let the dog food run out because that’s also one of the things he’ll buy.

Or else if I buy everything for him every week he’ll just let me foot the bill without complaint. Like he acts as if he can’t stop by the store one day to buy himself food/household things he needs. When I’ve been doing it all this time and maybe he went once or twice with me but then we argue because he doesn’t want to pay.

It’s like he just wants me to pay for the majority of the stuff and he wonders why I’m unhappy. Sure he pays sometimes but then idk to me it feels like I pay more. Then I get even more upset after we go to a restaurant and he just doesn’t pay for anything and walks out.

His reasoning is that I complain when I have to pay at restaurants and he doesn’t want that. But at that point I’m like if you won’t pay then I’ll pay I don’t want to be banned from the restaurant for not paying and I feel guilty about not paying the waitress or tipping her.

And then he starts calling me names again saying I’m a bitch and selfish when I’m just expressing I’d like to go back and pay. And he can stay in the car but he’s like oh no once you walk out you can’t go back if you don’t pay. Then he’s like why can’t you just calm down!?! You’re always getting upset and crying, well yeah you keep doing stupid stuff that makes me upset and cry like not pay at a restaurant and basically have us steal from the restaurant because you think I’ll complain if I have to pay?

So idk he just kept getting angry and mad but I’m like dude I’m just telling you I want to go back and pay. I’m not trying to be difficult and argue. But just because I’m not going along with his word he’s spazzing out and getting angry again. It’s awful ;( idk what to do, I thought we had been getting along well up until these past few weeks.