How to get my husband to celebrate

My husband doesn't celebrate anything by himself I do all birthdays holidays. It burns me out honestly. I host our families cook clean plan chase kids.

Mother's day birthdays shoot even a date I don't get. We lack a village with our children so I don't have anyone to lean on either.

Last mother's day he celebrated his mom but I didn't even get a card and I hauled my kids to my disabled mom's solo with a toddler new born and kid. And did the cooking. I complained so much last year this year I was sure he would plan.

I told my husband a wagon I wanted was on sale and I was going to pick it up this week. He told me later on the week he bought it for me for mother's day.

I work mother's day morning. So I have been cleaning laundry and cooking today so tomorrow goes smoothly. He put together the wagon and acted so pleased with himself.

I actually am so annoyed I told him I can't wait till fathers day and get him something for the kids. His jaw dropped.

I feel cheated for having anything for myself ever. I don't get time with friends I don't get time without kids I don't even get a gift that is intended just for me. I was given something I was buying. I even had to return the wagon and haul it back to the store use a coupon and buy it again cheaper. It was another chore for me to do.

Money is so tight I can't even do something for myself.

For those who say I'm ungrateful or communicate I do communicate and to me this is lazy. I told him multiple times I had a coupon and which day I was going and how much it would cost. He knew all of that. He proceeded to get it anyways knowing I was buying it. Makes no logical sense except to say well I tried but didn't actually try to me this is weaponized e competency which he does all the time to put it so he has to do bare minimum or less.

I communicate every holiday hince why he spent today with his mom instead since I work tomorrow then he can join me at my mom's. I work and am a stay at home mom. My husband plays multiple sports takes trips and has him time I don't get that luxury. I'm still up multiple times a night with my toddler and baby he never gets up even when I work the next morning early.

The fact I'm not ever given gifts or time or thoughtfulness is just inexcusable anymore. I'm the last on the totum pole my needs are always last. I get to be upset. He legit could have written me a post it note with more sentiment than that. It's the equivalent of buying a vacuum for a birthday present.