Am I being unfair to my bf?
Long story short we have a 5 month old and been having lots of issues on their bonding, our LO doesn’t want to be with dad. I try to encourage a bond between them and offer suggestions to my bf but u can tell once he’s home from work he just wants her with her pacifier in her mouth- quiet. She gets bored but he’s too tired so usually 95% of the time I have to get her to play with her etc.. this has been an ongoing argument because I have no time to “relax” since he knows once LO starts he won’t try anything and instead of hearing her cry I just take over at this point.
Now my bf schedule is Monday-Friday 8am-5:30pm sometimes 6pm if work isn’t done. I’ve been going to the gym when I put our LO to sleep she’s usually out for the night at 9:30pm so I’ll go to the gym OR at 5am before she wakes up for the day. Now my bf is saying he wants to start like me (gym) and if he can start going after work.. even tho the baby doesn’t like to be with him I’ll still give LO to dad and TRY to eat/ shower etc.. LO goes to bed at 8pm so he really only has about 2 - 2 1/2 hrs with her. I’m annoyed that now he wants to start going after work when he’s already hardly with her. I explained this is why I go when it doesn’t interfere with our “schedule” we agreed on. Or when he needs my help yet he’s over here asking to now go when it’s his time to be with LO. I suggested what about his days off? He said it’s easier when he’s off of work because they have indoor gym there.
Am I wrong? I’m trying to meet a middle ground but do not think it’s right that it would be during the agreement we had
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