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Li

Lil Queen

My husband in his previous marriage said everything was fine until one month they fought like cats and dogs and broke up. Only one month he said everything before that was perfect but it was his choice to leave. Now when he talks about being with me he loves me but he doesn't know if he will love me forever because he has been divorced. He doesn't know if he wants to grow old with me.

He is a good husband but my worries stem from the fact it was only one bad month. Also the fact that he doesnt know if he wants to be with me forever. I realize this is because he got a divorce. So is this something to worry about or is that how you feel after a divorce. I would never leave him I love him so much. What are your thoughts.

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em

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Why would you marry someone if you didn't know that you wanted to spend forever with them? That doesn't make sense to me. He sounds like he wants to run when things get hard

Ma

Maggie • Jan 18, 2016
Agreed!!! If he already thinks he can't handle the hard parts of marriage, then it's not worth it. Because there will certainly be hard times

Id

Idalis • Jan 18, 2016
My thoughts exactly

ka

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Absolutely that would be something to worry about. Do you really want to be with someone that finds it so easy to give up and walk away from a marriage?

Je

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Sounds like he's a commitment phobe and a runner. Tell him how you feel and see what he says. I feel like he has his guard up and you need to tell him that you aren't going anywhere and that just bc things get rough doesn't mean it can't be good again. 

Me

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What? He says he doesn't know if he'll love you forever because he's gotten a divorce? I've been divorced and I know I will love my current husband forever. That doesn't make any sense to me. If you don't "know" then why get married? Marriage is supposed to be forever, otherwise you just continue dating.

Je

Jessica • Jan 18, 2016
I agree. why did he tie your feelings up o forever if he doesn't even know? that's a bit harsh to ear I assume. I only see forever with my husband and no obstacle will stop that

Br

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Why the hell did he marry you then? Seriously, what the hell. It's like he's already talking himself out of being with you. He sounds like a total selfish asshole.

jp

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Are you guys actually married or do you just call him your husband? Cause why would he marry you if he didn't know he wanted to be with you forever. And did this all of a sudden just come up after you married him? 

Li

Lil Queen • Jan 18, 2016
yes we are actually married

Mo

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That doesn't sound like something a married man would say to his wife. WTF

Jo

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How long ago was the divorce? And how long have you guys been married? 

Jo

JoAnna • Jan 18, 2016
Honestly I don't see why he would start saying he's not sure if he wants to grow old with you. I look at married as a way of saying I want to be with you for the rest of my life. I would talk to him about it. Communication truly is what most relationships lack. Just be straight up with him.

Li

Lil Queen • Jan 18, 2016
divorce was 6 years ago, we have only been together for 3 years

El

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Tell him how you feel! Tell him you're concerned.
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