Am I wrong?

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So my husband was off work yesterday. (Worked Sunday night but usually sleeps a few hours when he doesn't work next day which he did, till 9:30.) I work 7-3:30. He should of picked up out son from the babysitter which he did not..... So I cancel my grocery shopping to go pick him up. I get home and he's messing around getting stuff ready for a fishing trip and has been ALL day. I let it go thinking as soon as I got home, he would come in the house and help me cook, clean and take care of our son. I know it's not hard to do All that but I have a stressful and physically demanding job and I'd like to just take a break when I get home for a few minutes. I finally b*tch at him and tell him how I feel. This sort of thing happens a lot, I work and he's messing around with his "toys". (Keep in mind, I cooked supper, cleaned the house, gave our son a bath) so after I bitched he calls the babysitter who is his mom to come get our son cause I need a break.(she normally gets him at 8:30pm, but came at 7pm) Really?!!! That right there pissed me off. Would you be mad? Is anyone else's SO other like this? Also keep in mind, he's gone till Friday so I have to do this all on my own... Which I don't mind.

*he came in the house to eat quick and that's the longest he was in there till 10pm. I did not get to sit down all night because he was out there all night messing around. I feel that is unfair. And he works 3 12 hour days a week so had plenty of time to do all this.

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Although mom is the babysitter,
He should've asked you first. No woman wants their husband to call his mom and ask for help.

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Probably going to be the only one who doesn't really see a problem here. I mean what kind of job does your husband have? If he has a day off it's definitely his time to relax and prepare for his fishing trip that seems important to him. Your son was at the babysitter (your mother-in-law)...why couldn't he stay there a little longer so you could go grocery shopping, then pick him up, and then get home and ask your husband to help unload everything? By then your husband should have had his stuff together and could have watched your son while you cooked and did whatever else. Bitching at him probably isn't the best route. Asking politely and explaining why you need help will get you a heck of a lot further. Communication is key...but understanding and taking each other's feelings and emotions into consideration is also important. At some point, you two need to sit and have a calm, respectful conversation. It seems neither of you respect the other or hold their feelings in high regard.

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He needs to understand that a relationship should be equal. You need to share the work and he needs to get off his lazy ass

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I think you wait way to long to express your needs and what you want. You expect him to do certain things and don't communicate and then when your expectations aren't meant you bitch. That's not fair. Communicate better and ask for what you want without being a bitch, and thank him for it after. It will make your relationship better and he will likely want to make time for you more, no one wants to spend time with someone who is moody and nagging.

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Honestly some men were raised in such a way that they think everything you described is normal. To sit down and discuss when it is not heated is the best idea. Then you can share your feelings and even write down an actual plan of your needs and what he is willing to do to meet them. Remember to hear out his perspective, even if it sounds like it's from another planet.
My husband is so so similar, only we have more children and he is into survival stuff. He will pack and unpack bags and watch shows on YouTube, and like start it right when they get off school....seriously.
I have to remember to talk to him about what I am going to need from him on the same day that I need it, before it happens.....yes that is nearly very day. When I am specific with the actions I want from him, he will do them. 
Lol then he runs off once those things are done. But at that point I have to curb my attitude because he already did what he agreed to do.
Yes it's challenging, but that's life.
Good luck!

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Ummm I'd be mad that he called his mother when he could of been spending time with him and helping you out....And if he does this sort of thing all the time, then you have a right to be upset.

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