Who's more at fault ? Drama !

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Okay so I believe yesterday or the day before I made a post about how my MIL and SIL have an annoying habit of just taking my baby from my arms, like I'll be holding her and they just pull her out of my arms without asking. Last time they did it was the last straw, I bit my tongue when they both did it to me because I was so close to saying something BUT i didn't I was so mad I wrote down on my notes a paragraph about how they have no manners whatsoever , how they have mouths and should learn to use them and how it's annoying and rude that they do it, I even put that next time they did it i'd say something to them not caring how it came out and that i'll smack their hand away. Okay so I purposely took a picture of what I wrote with my husband's phone and posted it on his snapchat. He came home from visiting them and told me his sister is mad as hell because one of his cousins that saw it texted his sister right away and told her I was talking crap about them so she confronted him about it, he told me he said to her " I don't think she's referring to you guys but i'll talk to her about it " um, I WAS talking about them and I even told him I was and that they always do it and its rude & I don't like it. We have to go over today and I'm waiting to see what happens I don't think they will bring it up but if they do , What the hell is she gonna do , fight me ? 😂 i'm pregnant so that would make her look bad besides shes always talked crap about me behind my back / to my husband but never to my face! So if she wants to say that I do that then so be it , i'm not denying it imma be like mmhmm girl yes I did write that ! 
I hope that gets through their big ass heads and makes them fucken understand to not do it anymore either that or they will purposely do it since they love making me mad. 
I know posting it online made me seem immature but there was really no other way of doing it I mean his sister doesn't even like me as it is and his MIL speaks spanish so she wouldn't understand. I don't care if this makes them hate me even more, they need to learn their manners and respect me, i'm just standing up for myself and my child. They act as if i'm saying I never want them to hold my child what I mean is ASK first before taking her from my arms and if she doesn't want to go then leave her alone and let her warm up to you.

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I think venting on here is fine and confronting them is fine. But where you were wrong was posting it to Snapchat instead of just expressing how you felt about them doing that to you.

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I understand why you're mad but it's wrong to be passive aggressive. Instead of originally saying something to them about it to their face (which is what you should have done) you passive aggressively went in a round about way of confronting them. You made the situation way worse then it needed to be.  Next time just woman up and say it to their face as nice as possible. The outcome will be a lot better.

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You sound like a good fit for Jerry Springer . No offense but your a mother now , what type of mature , grown woman talks about fighting her inlaws ? Or anyone else for that matter .

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Can you add me to your snapchat ? Seems like a good time lol

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Sounds like a cultural difference if mom doesn't even speak English, I think you should have had your husband talk to them about it before getting passive aggressive.

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You could have just told them nicely that you would prefer that they ask you if they want to hold the baby. You went about it the wrong  way and you were extremely immature.

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Screw all those people who say youre childish. its hard as hell when you're in that situation. what guy wants to have his wife and mom +sister fighting ?? like obviously you're gonna bite your tongue as long as you can but there's only so much you can take. yeah, there's other things you could have done but you didn't do them and who cares. Hispanic people are... impossible. I'm Hispanic so are my in laws and I feel like were gonna have aloooot of problems when my baby is born because I already see and hear stuff right now that I don't like. its easy for everyone to say 'be an adult. confront them' not so easy to be in your shoes and actually do it. 
good job and I hope the cousin showed the sister and the sister showed the mom. 👍👍👍👍👍👍

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This is totally on you! No question. Is it rude for them to just take the baby from you're hands? Yes!! But you should have said something if it's a habit that bothers you. Then you wouldn't have been in the wrong. Instead you wrote a long vent about it and used your husbands social media page to post it? That sounds very juvenile to me and super passive aggressive. Have an adult conversation about it to their face. Instead you've just made what could have been a simple 5 minute calm conversation this huge public drama aired out for all to see. Not cool.

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You should've waited and said it to their face, that's the adult thing to do. It was childish to put it on snapchat. Although I understand how you're feeling, you should've waited u til next time and stopped it right there!!! Trust me they would've been embaressed and that's it. What are they going to say? It's your child, your grounds. If she says somwthig to you, then admit it and remain calm and let them know how it's going to be from now on.

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Why not actually say something when they do it? Instead of talking behind their backs without even mentioning to them that you don't like it... Maybe I've misunderstood?

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