I'm a disappointment....rant

So my husband wants a hugs and chugs party, he supplied the beer (chugs) and the men bring either a pack of diapers or wipes. So I mentioned this to his mom, she was hurt that she's not planning my baby shower. Thought that'd be perfect for her, because in her mind her son is very mistreated by me. No total opposite happened she flipped out on me told me I'm such a disappointment to her and she just keeps getting more and more disappointed the more I talk. So want to know why I'm a disappointment first I want my husband to have his hugs and chugs shower, second I'm giving my son 2 middle names Abram Jonah Ray D., third I'm setting my son up for being bullied because of name, third I'm putting my son at risk because we have cats and dogs, lastly the last one goes into this one every other day I get a text or email telling me I'm making damn sure my son stays in the NICU. Here's why I had morning sickness that wouldn't allow me to eat during the day just at night, I drank Coke to ease my severe heartburn/nausea (ok'd by my dr.), and the cats and dogs all these are in her eyes definite things to lead my unborn son to a NICU. Oh I can't stand her right now, I don't understand why she speaks to me like this, and why tell me your grandson will be in the NICU when your not a doctor. If you made it this far thanks for reading my rant, my blood pressure was high and I needed to let this out!