Baby shower blues

So I had fully decided to not have a baby shower, but my best friend kept saying I should have one since I didn't have one with my first. So I finally agree to do it, so I began planning it since no one had offered to do so and she tells me it's not appropriate for me to plan my own. I personally didn't feel that it would be appropriate for me to ask some to plan it either, so I finally tell her I was tired of everyone telling me i shouldn't plan my own with no offers to plan it for me and she finally tells me if my sister decides to plan it then she'll help her. So I begin sending her ideas colors I like, cake etc but she wants to do something very plain just put out a few snack no major decor or anything. I guess I'm just kind of sad because once I agreed to it I imagined a really nice set up, I have no problem planning or paying for it myself but I guess maybe I just shouldn't have one and spend the money on more baby stuff.