Over protective parents.?

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I don't have kids and I don't judge people's parenting skills at all. So my sister in law and brother in law have a daughter she's 13. Very good kid straight A, she's in every sport u can think of and I the schools drama and choir club. She has a cell phone an iPhone 6 to be exact. Well this past weekend my sister in law went to Verizon to buy this table to have all of her texts messages sent to that tablet and also went to Apple so that they could put a block and restriction in certain apps they don't want her to have, of also they blocked her camera. And anytime she wants to down load an app she has to get them to download it for her Bc she doesn't know the iTunes password. I know kids these days are growing up way to fast and are having sex and very young ages. And I get there is nothing wrong with protecting your child and monitoring them. But I think this is what makes kids rebel and dis obey. Any thoughts?

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Hmmm... I'm glad my kids aren't old enough for this yet because I'm truly worried about the teenage phase. 13 is still very young and irresponsible. I think part of this is just good parenting. I personally don't think I would get her a smart phone at 13, but that's just me. Tracking your kids moves electronically is part of good parenting in 2016

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You say you don't judge but that's exactly what you're doing. And unless you have kids and have been there, it's really hard to say what you won't do. Let them parent how they see best. Setting reasonable restrictions on a child is completely normal.

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My 13 year old niece was caught sending pictures of her boobs to strangers on snapcat and I caught my 12 year old daughter watching porn on one of her dad's old phones we didn't realize she had. She said it was because she wanted to be like the popular kids. So yes kids apps need to be monitored very closely.

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Yeah OK. This story doesn't sound 100% true.

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I don't think that's what causes rebellion. If they have established rules that make sense and they stick to them with all kids, I think it's great! It's when rules don't make any sense and it's just because "I'm the parent" that cause kids to rebel

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I think it is fine to do that to a 13-year old. Except maybe the texts may be too much. I would tell the kid I have the right to read her stuff anytime but I would not really do it unless I felt a real reason to. But if you are going to restrict her so much with the apps and all might as well just get her a phone with calls and text only. What's the point?

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She's 13 and peer pressure sucks so no i think they ar being smart.  A little story.
I was 11 or 12 when we got our first computer and 13 when we got AOL i installed it, had the mastrt screen name and all the passwords.  My parents and grandparents were computer ignorant and that meant i had free reign.  No one knew the extent of danger when it came to chatrooms and pedofiles back then.  It was the end of the school year when I started talking to a "boy" online.  He said he was 17 and thought I sounded cute he wanted to talk dirty but i was too young and ignorant thankfully so he got my house number.  He would call talk about normal things then the convo would turn dirty i felt embarrassed but also like an adult.  We were making plans to meet at the local mall when my mom found out IMs and freaked.  Turns out this guy was 30 and had a prior record. 
Looking back i know and see how horrible this really was but at the time i was just really confused.  
I was a straight A student haf scholarships to college through equestrian events, president of the local 4h, active in my school boostet club, 1st chair violinist and i got pregnant at 17.

No they have the right idea.

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I didn't have my first cell phone until I was 16. That was back in 2005 lol. I wasn't monitored, and I didn't need to be. My step son (6) and my son (4) each have a tablet, and there are parental controls set up. I set up a time limit, age restrictions, they can't download anything without me or my husband. I guess when they're older, we'll figure out what's okay, and what's not okay. Being a parent, you have to protect your kids! Privacy is earned, it is not a privilege.

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I think parents should be monitoring their children's phone/Internet usage. Idc if the girl is a straight A student or not, young teenagers can get taken advantage of over the Internet. By the parents monitoring her usage, they might be able to stop an internet predator before something got outta hand. I think not letting her use the camera may be a little too much, but then again if they're  worried about her sending someone naked pics or something I can kinda see it. But she could allow her to use the camera and have her pictures backed up to the mom or dad's account so they could see if she was doing something like that. The Internet can be a scary place especially for a young teen so if they want to try and protect her from something bad happening then that is totally their decision. Maybe with time after more trust is built they will allow her more freedom if she doesn't abuse it.

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This was semi before the age of cell phones but when I was 13 I stole my dads Polaroid camera that printed pictures on the spot and took pictures of my lady bits and boobs, I was just trying to see what everything looked like but I freaked out and hid them. I don't remember why but my dad was looking for something in my closet and found them and I got in a metric 💩 ton of trouble because he didn't believe I wasn't going to give them to someone. Lmao.

But in all seriousness the best kids (I was the same you described the kid in this video) might have good or bad intentions with the cell phones. I'm terrified of the teenage stage for my son and he is a month old lol. I'm a teacher so I see the mess these kids get in and it's only going to get worse so I don't blame her parents 1 bit.

Over protective parents.?

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