I have been with my boyfriend for over three years now. Maturbation is a natural thing and it is SO healthy to do. But I feel like it is something to be done ALONE. I switched from the birth control method with the thing in my arm to the pill about 1 1/2 ago and I lost all of my sex drive! I hated sex! And I would still have sex with him but it was like every two weeks instead of every other day like before. During that time he would masturbate.... IN BED WITH ME. I hated it, I told him to stop doing it in bed next to me. I mean he was SHAKING the whole bed!!! It drove me crazy, after enough times of me flipping out about it he stopped. I stopped taking the pill two months ago because I wanted our sex life back. We have had crazy awesome sex and I have been pleasing him and he has been pleasing me too... A LOT (; .