Should we find out the gender?

Question

So, I'm 12 weeks and 80% of me doesn't want to know the gender of baby #3 but the other 20% does. My family REALLY wants me to find out! Like really bad! They have been pressuring me/ talking me into finding out. Now I'm on the fence......what should I do??? I have 2 boys already.

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We're in the same boat, expecting baby #3 and we have 2 girls. Our first was a surprise. The second one the tech accidentally told us. And this time I want it to be a surprise and everyone is bugging me to find out.

My husband really wants a boy but doesn't care if we find out. My family wants me to find out because they say I need to be prepared if we're exepecting a boy. I said my mom and mil will buy the entire section on the boys department if it's a boy so I don't have to worry about clothes. And it takes 1-2hr max to wash a huge load of baby clothes! And I we already have all neutral baby gear.

The reasons I want it to be a surprise is because if we find out now it's a girl I feel like my husband won't be excited the rest of the pregnancy. Or that he will be sad and dwell on it, as this is our last. But if we wait till baby is born to find out it's a girl.... How can you be sad or upset when your holding a brand new baby girl??? And that love is only going to grow!

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Think of it this way: it's not like you are never going to know! This baby will be born in a few months time and it will be the best moment of your life, finding out the gender is just another super cool thing that gets to happen on that day! Tell your family it is your decision and they will find out when you do.

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We had two boys that we didn't find out with, but on baby 3, my family convinced me to find out so we could "get ready" if it was a girl. Well, turns out it was boy 3, so I spent the next 22 weeks being bummed, whereas if I had waited like the other two- it's almost impossible to be disappointed when they hand you your brand new baby. The benefit of knowing was that we could name him and talk to our oldest son about the new baby.

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We didn't find out with any of them and have 2 boys. The suspense has been fun not just for us but friends and co workers too. Everyone is dying to know:)

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we didn't find out with #2 and it made the moment really special. knowing is great because you can be more prepared if you like to do the pink and blue and nursery and names and stuff, but i loved not knowing. we wont find out with #3 either!

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we are pregnant with our third and nobody knows that I know the gender -not even my husband! I like having my little secret. bc I get to see his reaction when the baby is born and live vicariously through him and in the meantime mentally prepare and get things ready. ;).

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No don't do it ! This is our third pregnancy (we have a boy and a girl) and we r team green. We didn't find out with our first and we did find out with our 2nd. It's lovely to no the gender and go shopping for wee outfits but there's nothing like that surprise when the midwife lifts up ur baby and says 'it's a boy/girl' 😍 I cannot wait xxx

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I have 2 boys but I'm having (drumroll).......another BOY! Whew! LOL. I just NEEDED to find out because if it was a girl I needed time to prepare (both mentally and physically) LOL!

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My hospital told me and I didn't want to know :( but you choose maybe if this is your last a secret would be nice! Other people can wait it won't make a difference to them xxxx

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This is my 3rd baby too and I didn't want to find out. My whole family pressured me into it. I am excited to know now but still a little disappointed that I won't ever have that suprise in the delivery room.

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