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Unwed Shaming

Let's get real...

I've wanted kids for as long as I can remember.

I'm 28, 4w,6d, chronically single, and I've lived by myself in a tiny one bedroom apt for the last 5 years. I have a college degree. I have a stable job at a company that I've worked for for 5 years. Overall, I have my shit together.

I have romantic flings. I just never found my match. And now I'm pregnant.

I am having anxiety about telling my fling that I'm pregnant. I have anxiety about telling my very conservative boss that I'm pregnant. I have anxiety about telling my family.

But here's the thing, I could not be more EXCITED about having a child. I am pumped! But I don't know how I will handle the outside world's judgements on my situation.

It seems to me that there are so many wonderful women on here who "did it in the right order"

1. Find a guy, fall in love

2. Get Married

3. Have Kids

(Good for you, this seems logical)

I want to know where the strong women are who are doing this alone. Where are the single ladies? Where are the people who are going through this, who won't shame me for doing things in MY ORDER:

1. College and Career

2. Date ALL THE BOYS

3. Knocked Up

Rock on, single moms.

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