Squirting, on and off

My husband and i have been together as a married couple for almost 2 years now and together a few before that. He doesn't like it when I squirt due to the mess. Is there a way for a woman to stop squirting once she has for th first time? I can't seem to stop squirting so for over 3 years now I haven't really had an organ with him. Plus I can't make myself cum at all when it is just me doing stuff. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.