Last name?

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No rude ass comments thanks.So how does it work  if I don't want the baby to have the last nam of the father? I'm 13 weeks. But I know for a fact me and my SO isn't going to work out. And I'll be damn if he gets any kind of custody, he told me he gave his daughter (7years old from previous marrie that he's NOT EVEN DIVORCED YET!!) alcohol. So she won't "experiment" when she's older. He teaches her to cuss. And guys I had NOOO idea of this before I got pregnant. I'm so disgusted. He goes to strip clubs when he's out working on the road and bars and doesn't save his money.  And I've been unemployed for 8 months due to grandparents needing help cause their sick. But I sure will bust my ass to take care of what's mine if that means working 2-3 jobs. So my question is if I want my baby to have my last name do they do all that in the hospital?? And what if the father throws a conniption shit fit about it will he still have to sign the birth certificate? Will I have to go to court for a matter like this.  Cause I only want him to have supervised visits. He's barely been supportive of this pregnancy and he's rough with me. He's not careful he just threw himself on top of my belly last night just to laugh? Idk he's fucking weird. Advice would be great. Like I said again nothing rude because there is a block button.

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The baby can have your last name. Some states you legally have to give your husband's last name, but no worries if you aren't married.
You also don't have to list a father's name on the birth certificate.

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They do that at the hospital yes.  I can't answer all of it  but i can tell you supervised visits are not as easy to get as one might think. My kids have thier dad's last name. But i would bet not having him there would avoid a bunch of it and not having him on birth certificate might be a possibility.  But most states are big on each child has 2 parents and think every one should get rights weather or not they deserve it. And they don't seem to care how big of a scum the other party might be... good luck

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The laws are different in every state. Just a fair warning, if he decides to be in the baby's life, that will be the decision of a judge. I'm not being rude when I say this because I hate strip clubs, but if he can provide for his child a judge isn't going to care if he likes a lap dance every now and then.

If you truly believe he is a bad person, you need to start documenting now. Document every doctors appointment and who was there, every phone call about the baby, etc. I have a few friends who have gone through custody cases and this really helped them.

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In the uk you have to register the birth at a local government office. And in doing so it's up to the mother regarding name, and whether to put the baby's father on it. My auntie put her maiden name on both of my cousins as she was the last one in her family to have kids and she wanted to keep the name going.

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I know in the my hometown state if the parents are not married then the child must be given the mothers last name. Then if the parents decide to have the fathers last name be the same has the child they have to do it through the social security office I believe.

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It's whatever u put on the birth certificate if I'm not mistaken

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I think it depends on the state you live in.  Some states let you pick but some won't do it unless you're married & it's also your last name

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Just don't tell the father when you go into labor and only have your name on the birth certificate. Doing this will save you a lot of trouble later on! You still might have court cases and things but that will help a lot!

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I'm not sure how it works but you are certainly entitled to give your child your last name! My cousin in law's two oldest daughters go by their mother's last name because their father was and still is a dead beat. She raised her two oldest ones on her own until she met her current husband!

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It's ultimately ur choice give t your last name if that's what u want

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