Why the hell is my MIL trying to ruin my pregnancy ?!

I am sorry for the rant just can't handle it anymore. I am on the break of saying something to hurt her. First , finding out about pregnancy I was like idc what we have a baby girl would be awesome ,but a baby boy would be awesome too. He's mom immediate to say we are having a boy. It's like wth?! Idc I just want a healthy baby! Until the day we found out she would only refer to my child as a boy. Second, I worked my butt off getting a gender reveal party ready at the party all her family comes. She keeps asking everyone if we did a great job?! Again.... Wth I worked my ass off with my friends! She kept taking credit for it. At the gender reveal party people asked what's her name going to be ?! Yes, I am pregnant with a girl. I said I'm naming her Addison Elizabeth the middle name is my mothers first name. Which is something my husband & I decided on before knowing the sex the names were chosen.We told my MIL who  says "Nathaniels grandfather already wanted to name her a Native American name" due to our back ground. Well after telling her the name is going to be  Addsion she says "that's the dirty kids from my town."She wasn't happy about using my mothers names as her her middle names it's a 4rth generation name. She quickly says"I'm calling her Marketta my MIL's middle name. Everyone she meets she says that's what we are calling my daughter NO we are not calling her something not in her name. She will be called Addison like named! Third, my mother & sister sweetly ask her if she like to help with the baby shower. I grew up an hour away from my husband moved up to his home town. My MIL says "NO we are having our own in the town were we live." I don't know anyone other than her & his 2 aunts. We have only been married for a year.I didn't even know she was planning to throw a shower. Don't know why our family can't do one together. Why?! Can't things just be simple maybe it's emotions just pissing me off now! Last, she asked who would be in the room during birth?! I say my mother , sister & husband well she gets on well I will bust in the room. I don't care let me add in the fact during the pregnancy . I have been in the hospital 3 times not one time her coming up to the hospital. My mom, dad & husband were there with me during the worst times. Please tell me if its me being dramatic ?!