I need some suggestions

Okay, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now and the other day we finally did the #69, it was new to both of us so we didn't know what we were doing. But I felt uncomfortable at first because I don't know how I "smell" down there. You know. But anyways after that he's always wanting to have sex but that's one thing I am not ready for. He's always getting mad when I stop us from going to far. And he is also very controlling . He's always looking at my phone and doesn't like when I text my guy friends that I've known for 4 years. He says I am being disrespectful by doing that. What do I do ?